Top Happy New Year

Like birds, let us,
leave behind what we don’t need to carry…
GRUDGES SADNESS PAIN FEAR and REGRETS.
Life is beautiful, Enjoy it.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010

Good resolutions are simply checks
that men draw on a bank
where they have no account.

Happy New Year.

Fill your life with Happiness & Bright Cheer,
Bring to u Joy and Prosperity for the whole Year,
And it’s my New Year wish 4u Dear.

Wishing u a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR.

12 Months happiness, 52 weeks fun,
365 Days laughter, 8760 hrs good luck,
525600 Minutes joy, 31536000 seconds success,
So wishing u A/

(*)Happy New Year(*)

God gives You… 12 Month of Happiness, 52 Weeks of Fun, 365 Days Success, 8760 Hours Good Health, 52600 Minutes Good Luck, 3153600 Seconds of Joy…and that’s all! ”

Of all sound of all bells, the most solemn and touching is the peal which rings out the Old Year.

When the mid-nite bell rings tonight… Let it signify new and better things for you, let it signify a realisation of all things you wish for, Let it signify a year of courage and believes, Wishing you a very…very…very prosperious New Year. here have been many time in 2009 when I may disturbed you troubled u irritated u bugged u . . . . today I just wanna tell you . . . . I plan to continue it in 2010.

My wishes for you in year 2010
Great start for Jan,
Love for Feb,
Peace for march,
No worries for April
Fun for May,
Joy for June to Nov,
Happiness for Dec,
Have a lucky and wonderful 2010.

What can be said in New Year rhymes,
That’s not been said a thousand times?
The new years come, the old years go,
We know we dream, we dream we know.
We rise up laughing with the light,
We lie down weeping with the night.
We hug the world until it stings,
We curse it then and sigh for wings.
We live, we love, we woo, we wed,
We wreathe our prides, we sheet our dead.
We laugh, we weep, we hope, we fear,
And that’s the burden of a year.

Staying Motivated In Your Job Search

Staying Motivated In Your Job Search

Looking for work can be a long and tedious process, consisting of constantly flipping through job openings in the classifieds and online, and browsing your little black book of biz contacts.

Although repetitive, these are the things that have to be done when faced with the pink slip and bills to pay. But how do you keep yourself going strong, as if Anthony Robbins himself was right there next to you, cheering you on? Staying motivated in your job search could mean a faster hire for you, so we're here to tell you how to keep your chin up and your prospects high.

get used to it

Knowing that, today, people change jobs every couple of years, finding a job must become second nature to us. This simple yet effective list of self-help job search pointers will help you find, land and succeed in your next dream job.

Use your network of contacts
Now that you're unemployed, it's the perfect time to break out those business cards you've been collecting and put them to use. Don't ask your contacts for a job, but let them know you're looking for new projects to undertake. There's also no need to go into specifics about your old job; no one needs to know why you no longer work there. If they ask, just tell them you and your previous employer had "creative differences."

Find a part-time job
As there might be some time between planting the seeds and sowing an actual harvest, taking on a part-time job will help get you through financially in the interim. However, don't let this side job take away from your main goal of finding full-time employment.

Do the things you enjoy
Clearing your mind is as important as filling it up with information about your job search. So leave town for the weekend, play a game of cricket or learn to play the guitar. Whatever floats your boat.

Consider the job search your full-time job
To play hard, you need to work hard -- even if it's specifically to find a job. As aforementioned, you will likely be on the job hunt several times during the course of your professional life, so you might as well be productive about it, since a day spent looking for a job is one for which you won't be collecting a paycheck.

Don't settle for a position
As is the problem in many relationships, men sometimes settle for a decent job opening, fearing they won't find anything better. In the corporate world, there is always something better waiting for you out there, as long as you look for it. As the saying goes (or Heinz commercial demonstrates): "Good things come those who wait."

Use all your resources
Sticking to one avenue of job searching will not optimize your chances of landing the best position out there. So log on to any and all job websites, circle the best openings in the newspaper and make some calls to follow up on old leads you have. Don't be static or passive and you'll soon be rewarded for your work.

Make the most of your support group
Your friends and family are the best allies for your morale because at one point or another, they went through the same experience. Let them take you out and get your mind off of things. They've been there and done that, believe us.

Have a to-do list
Most of us work better when we follow specific guidelines and time frames, and things are no different when looking for work. Write down your major tasks for every day of the week and knock them down like Heinekens during happy hour.

Treat yourself
A positive reinforcement system has been proven effective in the workplace, and instilling this same system in your quest for a job will also be beneficial. And if you land a job within a specified time frame that you set for yourself, then why not treat yourself to a new bottle of cologne?

Make yourself happy

It's obvious that following these tips will not necessarily keep you happy about the job hunt (especially when it becomes discouraging), but this is a great opportunity to seek the positives in a negative situation. You can view this step in your life as the possibility of starting something new and fresh, as opposed to losing something old and familiar.

In case you're still having difficulties pumping yourself up for this tedious task, the book The Secrets of Executive Search... Professional Strategies for Managing Your Personal Job Search, by Robert M. Melancon, will help in your quest for a job.

career tip of the week

When you find yourself unemployed (point A), take the necessary time and effort to look for a job, and you'll eventually find the position you're looking for (point B). But remember to enjoy yourself while getting from point A to B, and never give up.

8 Tips To Negotiate A Higher Starting Salary

8 Tips To Negotiate A Higher Salary

Use Your Marketing Skills

1- Do your research

Learn as much as you can about the pay scale of the company that wants to hire you. Find out the industry average, as well. You may aspire to a career in scheduling at a major airline, but if the company's practice is to hire from within, you might need to accept an entry-level position. Union constraints may limit any flexibility on salary levels, no matter how many university degrees you have.

As part of your research, you need to have a clear idea of what your minimum salary expectations are. Do the math in advance and decide what your deal-breaker point is. There's no point wasting your time -- and the company's -- interviewing for a low-paying job in a company or industry that may not be able to offer the wages you need.

2- Don't tip your hand

Leave the salary expectation question blank on application forms, and don't mention a specific salary level in your cover letters. You want to get past the paper screening into the "to be considered" file without anyone thinking your anticipated salary is too high. You also don't want to lock yourself into accepting an offer of $55,000 per year if the decision-makers had budgeted up to $70,000 to fill the vacancy.

3- Understand your value

Consider whether you are in a position of power. If you're in high demand elsewhere, you have leverage. Draw attention to it, but be careful not to emphasize it too much. Avoid acting overly confident or cocky. It's OK to mention that you have interviews at other companies, but don't try to force a favorable decision.

4- Let the company bring up the salary negotiation issue

Avoid being the first to propose a salary figure. Tell them you're interested in a mutually rewarding career with the company and you're sure you can agree on an acceptable compensation package. If you're backed into a corner, introduce your salary range, but make it clear that it is "up for discussion." Don't ramble on. Say what you have to and then be quiet and listen.

5- Emphasize the benefits of your skills

When you talk about your last job, describe your accomplishments. Quantify your successes in terms of cost savings, increased productivity and overall contribution to the company. This will help the interviewers recognize the benefits of having you join their team, and will help boost the salary offer. If you earned performance bonuses or incentive awards, mention those so that you'll be viewed as an achiever, well worth top dollar.

6- Don't blink

Listen to how the offer is presented. When the interviewer or prospective new boss states a salary figure, nod your head to signify you're considering it, but keep quiet. If they're low-balling you, the figure could make a quick jump in those few moments of consideration.

7- Be reasonable

From your research, you know the offer is low. What do you counter at? If you choose 10%, you may have to accept a saw-off at 5%. Don't be confrontational. It's a calculated risk to walk away from a job offer. They might call you back with a revised starting salary or they might just close your file and hire someone else if they feel you've been greedy, arrogant or overly demanding.

8- Be flexible

If you want this job, consider agreeing to start at the salary level they're offering, so long as they offer additional bonuses for specific accomplishments. Be prepared to define them. Money is important, but consider the complete compensation package. Negotiate other perks and benefits and get them in writing. Ask about the frequency of potential salary increases. As with any negotiation, your goal is to create a win-win situation.

believe in yourself

Sometimes the only way you can get a higher starting salary is by being actively sought for your position. Other times, you may have to demonstrate that you have the exact skills the company needs and, if you play your cards right, you may land the job you want at a salary level beyond your dreams.

///\\\***Just Living Is Not Enough***///\\\

Just living is not enough. One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower. ~Hans Christian Anderson

When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." ~Erma Bombeck

The purpose of life is a life of purpose. ~Robert Byrne

The miracle is not to fly in the air, or to walk on the water, but to walk on the earth. ~Chinese Proverb

I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day. ~Elwyn Brooks White

Life is simple, its just not easy. ~Author Unknown

A life without cause is a life without effect. ~Barbarella

Here is the test to find whether your mission on earth is finished. If you're alive, it isn't. ~Richard Bach

Life's not always fair. Sometimes you can get a splinter even sliding down a rainbow. ~Cherralea Morgen

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. ~Henry David Thoreau, Walden

I hope life isn't a big joke, because I don't get it. ~Jack Handey

Life is a foreign language: all men mispronounce it. ~Christopher Morley, Thunder on the Left

Forgive, O Lord, my little jokes on Thee,And I'll forgive Thy great big one on me.~Robert Frost, "Cluster of Faith," 1962

In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. ~Kathy Norris

To live is so startling it leaves little time for anything else. ~Emily Dickinson

Yes, I will try to be. Because I believe that not being is arrogant. ~Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin

Life is the hyphen between matter and spirit. ~Augustus William Hare and Julius Charles Hare, Guesses at Truth, by Two Brothers, 1827

My life has a superb cast but I can't figure out the plot. ~Ashleigh Brilliant

I say, if your knees aren't green by the end of the day, you ought to seriously re-examine your life. ~Bill Watterson, Calvin & Hobbes

You fall out of your mother's womb, you crawl across open country under fire, and drop into your grave. ~Quentin Crisp

As we struggle to make sense of things, life looks on in repose. ~Author Unknown

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz

Maybe all one can do is hope to end up with the right regrets. ~Arthur Miller

Life is like a blanket too short. You pull it up and your toes rebel, you yank it down and shivers meander about your shoulder; but cheerful folks manage to draw their knees up and pass a very comfortable night. ~Marion Howard

Life is a whim of several billion cells to be you for a while. ~Author Unknown

You can't escape history, or the needs and neuroses you've picked up like layers and layers of tartar on your teeth. ~Charles Johnson

Life... is like a box of chocolates - a cheap, thoughtless, perfunctory gift that no one ever asks for, unreturnable because all you get back is another box of chocolates. So, you're stuck with mostly undefinable whipped mint crap, mindlessly wolfed down when there's nothing else to eat while you're watching the game. Sure, once is a while you get a peanut butter cup or an English toffee but it's gone too fast and the taste is fleeting. In the end, you are left with nothing but broken bits filled with hardened jelly and teeth-shattering nuts, which, if you are desperate enough to eat, leaves nothing but an empty box of useless brown paper. ~The X-Files

HoPe

“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.”

“Many of the great achievements of the world were accomplished by tired and discouraged men who kept on working.”

“To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”

“May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams. May the laughter that you find in your tomorrow wipe away the pain you find in your yesterdays.”

“Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love even though they've been hurt before.”

“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.”

“What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise”

“Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”

“Hope is the most exciting thing in life and if you honestly believe that love is out there, it will come. And even if it doesn't come straight away there is still that chance all through your life that it will.”

“In all things it is better to hope than to despair”

“Never let go of hope. One day you will see that it all has finally come together. What you have always wished for has finally come to be. You will look back and laugh at what has passed and you will ask yourself... 'How did I get through all of that?”

“When you say a situation or a person is hopeless, you are slamming the door in the face of God.”

“Man can live about forty days without food, about three days without water, about eight minutes without air, but only for one second without hope”

"Goodbye My Lover"

"Goodbye My Lover"


Did I disappoint you or let you down?
Should I be feeling guilty or let the judges frown?
'Cause I saw the end before we'd begun,
Yes I saw you were blinded and I knew I had won.
So I took what's mine by eternal right.
Took your soul out into the night.
It may be over but it won't stop there,
I am here for you if you'd only care.
You touched my heart you touched my soul.
You changed my life and all my goals.
And love is blind and that I knew when,
My heart was blinded by you.
I've kissed your lips and held your hand.
Shared your dreams and shared your bed.
I know you well, I know your smell.
I've been addicted to you.

[x2]
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

I am a dreamer and when i wake,
You can't break my spirit - it's my dreams you take.
And as you move on, remember me,
Remember us and all we used to be
I've seen you cry, I've seen you smile.
I've watched you sleeping for a while.
I'd be the father of your child.
I'd spend a lifetime with you.
I know your fears and you know mine.
We've had our doubts but now we're fine,
And I love you, I swear that's true.
I cannot live without you.

[x2]
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

And I still hold your hand in mine.
In mine when I'm asleep.
And I will bare my soul in time,
When I'm kneeling at your feet.
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

I'm so hollow, baby, I'm so hollow.
I'm so, I'm so, I'm so hollow.
I'm so hollow, baby, I'm so hollow.
I'm so, I'm so, I'm so hollow.

HopE ...

Hope


Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all,

And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.

I've heard it in the chillest land,
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.

Set your soul free.

Set your soul free.

Follow your dreams,
Be everything you could be,
Not caged in,
But freely,
Never bleeding.

Let you light shine,
Defeating darkness,
Keep on fighting,
And stand up for what you believe,

Then truly your heart and soul will be free.

Which direction will you choose?

Which direction will you choose?

Success or failure?

I supposed all of us want success right? But what is the key to success?

The key to success is not actually by studying hard, smart, and keen in it. The key to success is actually loving the subject, despite knowing that the subject may be such a bore to you, or a subject that kills you a lot, just love em guys! And also the first step to success is actually fall! You fall and don't wept like a cry baby if a person looks down on you. The truth is ugly! HAHAHA Got that from Ugly truth, but its true guys, Seriously, not all humans are born with such direct loving personality, they are the people who I label as "Love is mean people"

The way they show their concern is by harsh words that actually will demoralized you but the fact is they are motivating you, but of course the wrong way. But too bad, they are born in a life they used to live with their forefathers. We all know that the olden days and the modern lifestyle is different. But look at the modern life, what we are amiss from the term hardship. A hardship

that one should feel and take it as a booster in life to work harder in life!

Why not you take the challenge to actually show them that you can do it! Instead of saying, I'm trying, I'm trying, don't try! Stop trying and just do it! Yes just do it like how Nike says it!

First, you know that you are at falling state, well you are already falling! That's good, but the consequences are hearing the nagging, the demoralize words from your parents. You wanna know why they nag and disappointed with you? It's because they work their ass off to feed you clothes, pocket money, transport money, bags, books, living, schooling and almost everything you want they give it to you!

But what did you give it back to them? Nothing! Parents want you to do well in school! That's all!

What they wanna see from you is their children being successful in life. They doesn't wanna see you drowning in life, cos the FUTURE IS NOT EASY! Get this in your head!

Seriously, have you seen your parents work? Have you ever thought of it? Have you ever put yourself in their shoes? Have you ever have a minute thoughts about why they nag at you? Besides thinking about they are looking down at you, think why they nag?

It's your fault thats why they nag! Look, some parents will look down at you and not giving such moral support, cos they don't want it to be like a,"Masuk telinga kanan, keluar telinga kiri." Yes they are at fault too, cos some words of motivation will hype us up. But be surprised, some children will say, 'Alaa I know la I know..'

So guys, if your parents nag at you, hug em and say,'I love you, Dad, mum, for nagging me, i know you love me.' Just say something like this to them.

3 steps to apologize!

1) Tell them your sorry

2) Tell them the truth

3) Ask them how you can make it right to them?

That really shows how sincerity you are. I learnt this from Randy Paush.

After you fall in the deep blue sea of tears you have shed, what is your second step?

PICK YOURSELF UP!

What do you do to pick yourself up? Breathe in and just close your eyes and see yourself, making your parents smiling, by showing them that you are not going to disappoint them again.

How? First you need to really love your enemy! That is your most hated subject, put in much interest in it, if you don't know? ASK! ASK YOUR TEACHER! THEY WILL HELP YOU!

Second, STOP SKIPPING SCHOOL! WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TO SKIP SCHOOL LIKE AS IF IT'S A FREE SCHOOL! DON'T YOU FEEL GRATEFUL THAT YOU ARE FORTUNATE TO BE IN SCHOOL. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO WANTS TO BE IN SCHOOL BUT DUE TO THEIR STATE THEY CAN'T SO CAN YOU STOP BEING BEING BEING SUCH AN ARROGANT PUPIL AND NOT WANTING TO GO TO SCHOOL.

If you say that the teacher is boring, oh let me tell you, you are more boring! Cos you bore yourself to death that you pointed others are boring. Look, not all will get a fantasy teacher, but you need to understand them, you need to work with them. Let me tell you, I love strict teachers cos when you really work with them, you see they are the most loving teacher and have great sense of love towards their students, at the end of the day you will be jumping with joy cos you have great ace and you will remember that strict teacher actually changes your life. But the fact is, you did it.

So stop pointing others fault! And don't blame your parents or teachers if they look down on you or scolding you. Cos you have been skipping school. You think its cool? It's effing not! Seriously it's not! You're just wasting your life! Don't you want to learn something in life? Or just wasting your time out there with your friends who just wants to have fun?

Let me tell you something that will eventually be a hurtful one, but the truth is ugly!

True friends are friends who will ask you out to study and do something good, they may not be the nerdy geeky ones but the beautiful ones who cares about your future too. They want to see success in you and together no jealous of barrier amongst each other. Hey there are some people who will say, 'I know you're cleverer than me and bla bla bla..'

Let me give you a clear picture, do you want your life to be like this in 10 years time or you want to see yourself with a career? Think about it!

So I've touched on the 2 steps of the fall and the rise. Now the last step, if you want to be on top, you have to walk your way to the thick and thin forest, climb the mountains and above the clouds you will find your place to flag high your happiness.

The last thing to do is, don't do it for your own, but also for your parents. You are happy, you're parents are happy too. Whenever I think about my parents, having the hard time raising me up to give my every needs, my wants and my life, I just burst into tears. They sacrifice their time mostly at work to financially support me and they spend their time in any ways to support you. But if you already giving up on yourself, how can they not give up on you?

It's not hard to study, it's easy, yes it may be boring and stuff, then make it fun, maths is fun you know seriously, you have to play with it. Science is a killer to memorize, but its amusing when you get to experiment it. English is a language killer, but if you practice it verbally, you can make it.

What's so hard in life? What is it? Ask people who are working out there or those drop outs or anyone who is not schooling right now. Ask them, if you are given an opportunity to study, would you like to study or do what you are doing now? I've asked them, and mostly wants to study.

In a few years to come, I will be doing my services and then perhaps pursuing my studies in Uni, insya'allah if i get an opportunity, indeed I want to, and then working lifestyle.

My friends, brothers, sisters and aliens, please don't waste your life by thinking about fun fun fun. It won't lead you to no where. Yes you can have fun, but after you've done your homework and revision? If you reached home and felt tired to study,

DON'T STUDY! COS YOU'RE TIRED!

Just take a break, play the net and etc or sleep! Then you get back on your butt on that chair and start doing your work. I believe that each of us wants success and not failure in life. Cos our life is only once, but our opportunity comes like a golden chance. So don't waste it okay! :D

Lastly, if you want a better atmosphere at home, start building it and make it happen like magic.

'Children brings happiness in the family.'

PS: I'm sorry if some of my words are too harsh or too loud to read, But that is a wake up call for you and me. :D I hope this post is a message for us to stop complaining but start working hard. :D

Let's talk about 'Love'.

Let's talk about 'Love'.

When I look at young loving couple, I felt the miss of having a special one in life. Well, who doesn't right? But what does love really means? Only the happy moments you enjoyed feeling it? Or also the bitterness of the argument that makes you feel insecure? The lovely heartfelt words you expressed? Or is it only about love love love? Is there any more than that?

For me, if I were to love again, I would love to feel not only the love but also the closeness of having a friend who will listen and cry with me. All of us wants that. But at times, some of us actually left that out. What we afraid of is losing that one person, and what we could think of is to make the person happy and always happy.

But does only happiness can make one closer to you?

If for me, happiness just won't make one closer, but it'll just leave a good moments to smile on. What makes me feel the closeness is when you talk to me about your sorrows, your stress, your happy moments with friends, your silly moments and basically your ups and downs in life. The way you being yourself, that is what really matters.

Why is this important?

So that there won't be any hesitation. Believe me, there are people who out there afraid to be themselves, cos they just wanna impress you and not making a fool of themselves so that you won't run away.

What do you really look for?

I look for a relationship like this.

That is what I really look for. Someone I can team up with to shoot all the bad guys! HAHAHA! NOT!

I don't know about you aliens, but I would like to have

a person who is like Angelina Joline in stunts! Who is ready for action! Who can jump higher than me but must be shorter than me. XD

To sing along with me, to laugh with me, to be crazy like me, to debate with me, to swing the guitar at me when I'm being a retarded lame. Throw pillows at me at night when I stink, to push me off the bed and chase her in the house with cream. Messing up the kitchen , poke her while she asleep, and ended up in embrace.

Isn't it sweet to think about this, your dream girl/boy, what you expect from the person, what you want to happen, what you foresee in the relationship. Well, not all we planned run accordingly. Like a saying,'We plan it, but God decide it.'

When you really feel the break down of the relationship, don't just keep quiet, but tell the truth of what you're feeling, he/she will listen. Cos both of you wouldn't wanna lose the love. But if at times, the reason of the break up is beyond your will, it's better not to say it but hoping that he/she will understand you indirectly.

The bitter of love is what makes one be closer to another. As you fall, you will make another stand, to continue what you've stop. It'll be a better trip than before, cos you learnt something and realized what you lack of. That makes you stronger. And stronger that you feel like piggyback her. I wish my girlfriend piggyback me. HAHAHA!

But most importantly, when you confess love, you must really be sincere of what you are confessing, it is not for the beauty but for the companion being with her/his, the way he/she treated you. The way he/she is being true to you. The sincerity he shows visibly and not. The way he is, the imperfection of his that makes him perfect in your eyes. The care he shows to you. And the knowledge that he possessed that can lead you for a better live.

A love you can bring along even at your golden age, is what I call an 'Undying love'.

Meet my lady.

and someone I can be with like what I've mentioned above.

I wanna marry a fair lady, with blue eyes wearing a white hijab!

HAHAHAHAHA! XD

Well, this will be like in 10years time? Perhaps

What about yours? :D

Be Your Self

Sometimes you try too hard to be someone else.

Take a break and be yourself,

cos you are unique in your own way.

I'm breaking down and I don’t know why.

I'm breaking down and I don’t know why.

I'm trying to look at the good but right now i just want to cry.
I don’t know what I am doing anymore.
Maybe its the fact that I feel so alone.
I really only have ONE really close friend who is like a Sister to me.
But I always feel unimportant and like i dont matter.
I am so confused with my life.
I cut my dad out of my life a while ago.
And one of the reasons i feel so unimportant is because my own FATHER has not even made an effort to come back into my life; Which shows he doesnt care.
I dont want him back in my life anyway. Period. AT ALL. But it kinda hurts that he doesnt wanna come back into it at all.
And one of my best guy friends is the guy i want to be with.
I like him alot; and i think he might know.
But i dont understand. I like him so much; I just want to be with him; I think he likes me as well because he seems to flirt with me. But he does not realize how much i care about him and how much i am hurting because i want to be more than friends.
And i miss my bestfriend from last year.
We got into the biggest fight and there is no way she would even consider being my friend again; because all that happened was to much to bear.
I just dont know. This isnt even half of what im feeling. I just want to be happy but i cant.

How to Get Closure

There may be times in our lives when relationships - whether they are romances, friendships, or family ties - hit a bump in the road and seem to fade away, leaving us wondering what happened and why? If it's been a long time and it's clear to you that the relationship is over, but there was no final talk or last goodbye, you might be in need of some closure so that you can move on, and put that relationship behind you.

Steps

1. Define your loose ends. What is it that lingers in you that prevents you from moving on? What residual emotions are still tying you to this person? Usually it's some form of anger or guilt - anger over what a person did to you, and you don't feel they were held accountable to it, or guilt over what you did (or didn't do) to (or for) someone else, and your resulting sense of regret.
2. Forgive. The fastest way to free yourself from an enemy and all associated negativity is to forgive. Untie the bindings and loose yourself from that person's ugliness. Your hatred has tied you to the person responsible for your pain. Your forgiveness enables you to start walking away from him or her and the pain. When your enemy and his or her evil actions come to mind, send him or her a blessing. Hope the best for him or her. The first 15 - or 150 - times you try this, the "blessing" may feel contrived, empty, and even hypocritical but keep trying. Eventually, it will become a new habit and soon thereafter, the anger and pain that has burned in your heart will evaporate.
3. Apologize. If you feel guilt or shame, if you are the one who needs forgiveness, then apologize. But it's not as simple as saying or thinking "I'm sorry." Grab a pen and paper and write a full-blown apology, keeping the following in mind:
   
   
   • There is no excuse. Do not try to think of or offer one. An apology with an excuse is not an apology. Take full responsibility for what you did.
   • Make it a point to avoid using the word "but". ("I am sorry, but..." means "I am not sorry.")
   • Do not say "I'm sorry you feel that way" or "I'm sorry if you were offended" --it makes it seem like you are blaming the other person for feeling a certain way, and is not a real apology.
   • Think about what caused you to make the offense. Find the underlying problem, describe it to the person (as an explanation, not an excuse), and tell them what you intend to do to rectify that problem so that you can avoid this mistake in the future.
4. 
   Have a symbolic ceremony. People still hold funerals for the deceased whose bodies were never found, and you can still have a formal way to say goodbye to relationships that were never resolved. Gather all of the things that remind you of this person and burn them, or donate them to charity. Give a eulogy to the relationship, and say it out loud.
5. Write a story. Think back to when your relationship with this person began, and document it from beginning to end. This may be very painful, but it will give you a broader perspective. When you get to the final chapter, finish off on a positive note and write "The End". If you're writing in a notebook, close it forcefully, take a deep breath, and put it on a bookshelf. If you wrote on looseleaf papers, fold them, put them in an envelope, and seal it. You may choose to keep the story, or you may choose to shred it or burn it. The very act of documenting your relationship and closing the book, however, will help you find closure emotionally.
6. 
   Begin a new chapter. You'll never be able to erase your memory of this person, but you can use the experience to better yourself and to help others. If you wronged someone, resolve never to make the same mistake again, and take it a step further: help others avoid making the same mistake you did. If you were a victim, reach out to other victims, and teach others how to avoid the wrongdoing that you faced. Make the end of your relationship with that person a turning point in your life. Start moving in a new direction.

Tips

• Give yourself time to heal. It won't happen overnight.
• Whenever you think of the person, visualize him or her in front of you, then imagine yourself blowing him or her away. Whether they fly away like a dry leaf or scatter like dust in the wind, let them go. Do this every time you find yourself dwelling on the past. [ To clarify this point, this means blowing them away with wind symbolically. Do not picture yourself "blowing this person away" with a shotgun. ]
• Having intimate relations with your ex is probably not a good idea.
• If you've done a person wrong, find it in your heart to sincerely apologize for your actions towards them. Never do this in hopes of recapturing the other person's love, but merely for the sake of letting them know that you've realized the error of your ways.
• If you have just broken up with someone (YOU broke up with THEM, not the other way around), and still feel a bit lost, focus on why you broke up with that person.

Warnings

• Avoid distractions or any kind of escapism. Don't submerge yourself in substance abuse, television, or a new relationship. It will only delay your feeling of closure.
• In a relationship that's ending, if the person says they need "time" or "space", give it to them, because ultimately you have no choice. Calling or texting or emailing the person does nothing but drive a wedge in their heart, making them feel that you are so self-centered that you still cannot give them their wish. If there is any love left for you, this time apart will help them realize it. The silence will hurt, but ultimately it comes down to two options : They will realize their love and return - OR - they will take this time to move on. At the end of a relationship, those are really the only two options you have.

How to Be an Attractive Woman

The power of attraction is a very useful thing. There is a common misconception that physical appearance completely determines attractiveness, but this is simply not true. If you want people to be drawn to you, there are a variety of things you can do as a woman that will have others flocking to you in time.

Steps

1. Love yourself. You can be pretty but still unattractive if you don't start to love yourself. Nobody will care how shiny and thick your hair is, for example, if you keep complaining about your waist size. Confidence is a powerful attractant, so you need to learn to be confident.
2. Be distinctly you. Be yourself. If you ever observe people at a party or any social gathering, you'll always see the majority of guys drawn to women with unique (but not intimidating) personalities. It's never a plain Jane, following the herd, to whom they all gravitate, now is it? So ask yourself, is there anything you could improve about your personality or who you are to make yourself more interesting and fun to talk to?
3. Be healthy. Eyes take kindly to a woman who takes care of herself, and that means finding a happy medium for your weight, eating well, getting enough sleep and exercising. Plus, being healthy makes you more energetic, as well as adding to your confidence--who can resist that?
4. Take care of your skin. Blemishes (especially on your face) can be very distracting. Wear sunblock daily to prevent future wrinkles and sunspots. Wash your face regularly, and apply makeup to accentuate your complexion.
5. Be hygienic. Maintain yourself so that you always smell and look fresh and lovely. Take showers, brush your teeth after every meal, wear clean clothes, etc.
6. Keep your hair healthy and styled. They say that the hair is the portrait of the face, so it has to look great. Greasy or damaged hair is always unattractive. Always comb and brush your hair very well, every day. Get a haircut or style that fits your facial shape.
7. Be nice. A rude person turns ugly in the eyes of whoever sees her, but a nice person turns into a prettier person in the eyes of everyone who sees her. Try to be nice to everyone, but know to defend yourself against any rude attitudes, since letting people walk all over you is not very attractive, now is it?
8. 

   
   Smile. Don't walk around all the time with a frown or even a neutral expression on your face. Even a little smile will make you more attractive. What else could be more inviting and approachable? All in all, be readable. You don't have to be predictable, but for goodness sake, do not keep a poker face when it comes to emotions. Guys do not like to feel unsure. As bad as it is asking for directions, asking a woman how she feels can be dangerous! This is why so many guys won't do it if they can't already tell if a girl is into them or not.
9. Be willing to participate. Whether it's talking, eating, gaming, dancing, or snorkeling, it's only polite to join in. A person who just sits there watching might as well be wearing a flashing neon sign that says "I'm a boring person who doesn't like fun!" However, this does NOT mean you should join in drinking or partying if you're not into those things. To get involved, walk kindly up to them and ask, "Do you mind if I could join you?" if they say yes, have fun! If they say no, then that would usually indicate that they are mean and not very 'open'. Try to avoid people who don't even notice you or are excessively mean to you for no reason. If the group/they say no, try to find some other people to try to be friends with.
10. Be capable of carrying on a conversation. You don't necessarily have to have something in common with a guy for him to take interest in you but if he tries to talk to you and you just stand there, he's going to move on. A good conversation starter is to ask his opinion about something superficial, such as whether INXS picked the right guy or if the nice weather will hold out through the weekend. Important: avoid asking for input about your looks, such as your outfit or your hair. Keep the conversation light. Above all, don't put yourself down, it's a huge turnoff.

How to Make Yourself Smile Even When It's Tough

Make Yourself Smile Even When It's Tough

Sometimes things can get you down and you need a little pick-me-up! It can be hard to get back to your same, cheerful self, but it's not impossible... Let's get started.

Instructions

1. Step 1

   Think of something funny. When you’re tired, depressed, or sad it often helps to think of something funny that happened to you or someone you know. More often than not, if it’s something that is really funny it will instantly cause you to laugh and force a smile on your face.

2. Step 2

   Think about all the things you have to be thankful for and write them down. After you’ve exhausted all your thoughts, stop for a moment and study the list. Realize how blessed you are and how thankful you should be.

3. Step 3

   Think about how much God loves you and how He’ll always be there for you no matter what. Just knowing you’re not alone can lift your spirits. Not to mention, that you’ll find no better best friend than the man upstairs!

4. Step 4

   Look at a picture of someone else smiling or someone smiling on TV and imagine that they are smiling directly at you. As humans we usually mirror the same emotions that we see in front of us so seeing someone else smiling (and even more so pretending that they are smiling at you) can make you smile as well.

5. Step 5

   Have good hygiene so that you have no excuse for not smiling. Brush your teeth, floss, whiten your teeth, get braces, get dentures, whatever you need to do to feel like you have beautiful teeth. You’ll be far more likely to flash your pearly whites if you think that you have a nice smile.

6. Step 6

   If you feel like you don’t have a nice smile then either practice changing it or learn how to embrace it. You should feel comfortable with your appearance and not afraid to show yourself off. If you want to practice changing it then study your smile in the mirror or take pictures of it and then practice how you would like your smile to be. Truthfully though, I’m sure you have a nice smile even if you don’t think it looks good. A true, genuine smile isn’t something that can be thought up in advance and practiced so the easiest route here would be to learn to embrace your flaws and love yourself because you don’t have to feel or look like everyone else.

7. Step 7

   Often the most underutilized and most effective way of getting yourself in a ‘smiling mood’ is to stretch your jaw muscles. Open your mouth really wide and move your cheeks and lips all around until you feel your face muscles start to relax and feel less tight. You’ll notice after you do these stretches that it seems so much easier to crack a smile!

when u move between two staff !

Bad mood!

" A horrible person have no choise but to be horrible"

that's what i thought about when i heard those words from my manager's mouth telling me that i have to move and start working at another clinic for the next 3 months starting on the 1st of october!!

that means new place ..new staff.....new boss..... i hate that

i was upset not just because of moving itself but because of the unfair reasons that made him take this decision.

my mind went blank... i only remembered a line i read in a novel named "The Shop Around The Corner" by Nikolaus Laszlo when Joe was advising Kathleen - who was having some problems at work - that she needs to stand up and fight for her rights.. cause it's not personal it's business......may god forgive me but i hated my boss at that moment.....

but since I'm not that person and since i have no experience as I'm still new at the work life.....

i - as a good girl- started my new work...

the place is ( ....teasds trasdt..........) sorry but i had no English expression as powerful as this new expression anyway it means ( too far) and it's very small as we can easily ran out of chairs if there was a little crowd
now it has been officially 2 weeks and still every time i go there start counting hours till i can go home
i don't know maybe i should focus on the bright side ...as the clinic is much better and ah the manager surprisingly is not suffering from the controls syndrome!
anyway this issue plus more other things are making me not in the mood lately..

How much do u like to Be onLine ??!!

Am i an addict???

Couple of weeks ago i noticed a yellowish spot on the medial side of my wrist....i was like what's this??when? and how??? that's when i thought of trying something...and yes that's it.....it was nothing but a friction spot due to long hours of using the mouse!!!

i have this passion for technology...specially computers since i was a kid....many years ago even before having the net service at home i used to set hours in front of my computer just to figure out how does it work..

i guess i can call myself a Google addict cuz there's no single day passes me without using this amazing web site but a computer addict?? i don't know ..

so

infront of this fact i ran to check Google -like i usually do-trying to find the symptoms and the signs of this kind of addiction

and here's what i found

take a look at these pictures...signs.. if you recognized these situations then you 're an addict!

no really ....computer addiction... is a disorder in which the individual turns to the internet or plays computer games in an attempt to change mood, overcome anxiety, deal with depression, reduce isolation or loneliness or distract themselves from overwhelming problems.

anyway after reading this i guess i'm not an addict but i should spend lesser time in front of the monitor so i decided to fill part of my time with reading...

Thanks in advance